Chapter 10: Things you hear while taking Commerce Without Maths

Teenage Abnormalities:Chapter 10(Long time , no see)

Disclaimer:This is a full on full rant where you can expect a lot of nonsensical outbursts and PJs. So if you decide to proceed kindly do so at your own risk.

Yah.. So long time no see to my ranting self in my blogs. You know the same ranting about being a student in India and now more particularly a going to be Commerce without Maths student in India.

First of all. You don’t take Science. Chalo koi naa. Aaj Kal toh hum log progressive ho gaye hai naa( Being as sarcastic as the people out there taunting you for taking your own decisions for your own life).

So again back to the point. In fact let me cut straight to the point and start my ranting on this close to my heart topic for the nth time.

So. Here are some few pearls of wisdom you get to hear on taking Commerce Without Maths.

#EmotionalBreakdownAlert

1. Accha accha. Commerce Without Maths. Iska Matlab toh humanities lee hai naa./Issey accha toh humanities hee le leti

Now who will tell them,

Ki inke hisaab se chale,

Toh mujhe kabki science le leni chahiye thi.

Second point. I want to study accounts and I wanna study legal studies . And in our education system I can’t study accounts in humanities. It is just not possible.

So I can only take commerce. And for studying legal studies, I can’t study maths. That’s as simple as it gets.

And about commerce without maths being equal to humanities, I don’t get about how a single subject howsoever important it may be can decide what stream a child is studying.

Science bhi toh bacche Bina maths ke lete Hai. Toh woh kya commerce pad rahe with physics and Chem.

Oh sorry sorry. Lekin woh toh science mein hai naa. End mein doctor toh bann hee jayenge ( Not my thinking process btw ).

So everyone saying these dialogues,

Kindly get a life so that you don’t have the time to poke into others’ lives.

#JanhitMeinJaari

2. Options khule rakhne chahiye

Before taking LS instead of M-A-T-H-S, I actually spent weeks finding out my options, and actually prepared a whole chart of Colleges, universities and degrees . My options were open completely open.

Only the mindset of people wasn’t open.

Matlab ki options (which btw meant DU and few other courses) ke liye mein 2 saal ek subject Padoon, usmein boards mein marks bhi laun aur fir finally agle paach salon ke liye regret karoon ki yeh kyon kiya.

Options khule rakhoon?

Next time when you have a child please don’t force them to follow your footsteps (both career wise and mindset wise). You in fact keep your options open for your child.

You know my respect for my humanities friends have actually gone up. Kese jhelte ho yaar.

3. Par tum toh Maths mein acchi ho

Maths is one of my strongest subjects. I admit that. I accept that. And I have got no issues with that. And no. I don’t hate maths. I have no problems with Maths.

You know in class 4th, everyone had formulated the full form of maths.

Meri Aatma Tujhe Hamesha Satayegi.

That time I was like. No yaar, I like maths. Ab actually maths sata rahi. Not for marks but for my peace of mind.(Again this is going to continue being a long rant)

Okay so my point is

LHS≠RHS

Marks≠Interest

CBSE≠Career

Hence proved.

Roses are red,

Violets are blue,

All subjects are cool,

So my dear society,(Not dear actually)

Why that’s not the case for you?(No need to answer)

4. 10 saal Kar liya. Kuch saal aur karlo

Isn’t this like kind of the same reason that the society gives to couples who wanna divorce?

Hnn maybe unn logon ka kuch saal means lifetime obviously . Ab India mein divorce thodi naa hota hai.

But this is a reason I’ve got for continuing with maths.

Pehle toh pre nursery,nursery, KG milake 10 saal se upar Kar liya. Doosra. Yeh kya hai?

Yeh reason 2014 election mein toh nahi diya tha.

Toh humko kyon de rahe?

Yaar yahi toh. Aaj maths karwa dena. Kal apni marzi ka course karwa dena. Phir apni iccha anusaar job pe lag waa dena. Phir shaadi bhi karwa dena. Phir bacche bhi karwa dena. Phir expect karna ki mein unki bhi zindagi Zhand karoon.

I mean. Why to go through all that rigorous process ?

Seedha seedha bolo ki beta sochna aur feel karna chhod do. Baaki zindagi aise hee Kat jayegi.

Ab kya hee kare……

So these are 4 reasons I got while choosing not to take Maths with Commerce.

If you don’t get the bullshit in all these reasons,

I really can’t rant more.

Warna legal studies ke paper mein bhi answer kya rant hee naa likh aaun.

So as I start what I would say a new chapter in my life, I desperately hope to eradicate some biases and learn new things, commit mistakes and then hear ki naak katadi tumne.

Kyonki ab toh naak katane mein bhi Mazza aane laga hai.

Let’s just not love each other. Kyonki love toh ho jaata hai. Let’s understand each other . Cause that’s the difficult part.

Okay so I guess enough of my outburst.

Again. #jeeyoAurJeeneDo

Can’t stop emphasizing on this fact. #LoveAndPeace And please do stay safe….

And BTW I am also on Insta: main_apnee_favourite_hoon (No I am not a Kareena Kapoor Fan and yes I am obsessed with myself)

I guess a bit of promotion doesn’t do any harm. So yah finally bye……

Marriages and Divorce

Marriages can be made in heaven. But they can’t be broken in heaven. And those who do this have their lives made hell by courtesy our Society.

Marriage is the 3rd most important stage of the PPSS syndrome(Padai Paise Shaadi Santaan) and then obviously comes what people regard an investment into the future. One who will carry the so called izzat and the vansh of the khandaan(mostly it does apply to heterosexual cisgender sons who again conform to the society’s norms)

According to studies, out of 1000 Indian marriages, 13 end up in divorce.

So are Indian marriages the most “ideal” marriages, the one filled with absolute love,trust,mutual respect and understand and oh God all those stupid standards of equality and dignity???

I think not.

The National Commission for Women in India for example received 5294 complaints of domestic violence in the year 2020.

All of these were “complaints” which means they were reported.

The number of complaints relating to harassment of married women or dowry harassment were 3784.

It has been acknowledged that the Pandemic has seen a huge increase in such cases against women.

Cases that come under the ambit of Ghar Ki Baath.

And yes , marital rape is not yet a crime in India.

Marital Rape. Domestic Violence. Dowry. -These are some of the crimes which happen in the guise of a marriage.

The stabbing of a Woman in the middle of the street by her husband for the sole reason that she wanted to continue working is Ghar Ki Baath. Yes it is their no no his personal matter. His wife, his property , his matter.

Right. So whether the wife gets pregnant or not, whether she uses contraception is not ghar ki baath. But the fact that a pregnant woman walking on the street, is hiding wounds using sunglasses and makeup and whether she has become pregnant through rape ( oh sorry how can a husband rape in India) is not ghar ki baath.

And she cannot complain. Cannot register an FIR. Can’t do the basic of going through a divorce.

The same may also apply to men as violence or torture against men is a definite question on their masculinity according to the Protection of Toxic Masculinity Act.

A Cross-sectional Study of Gender-Based Violence against Men in the Rural Area of Haryana, India
Jagbir Singh Malik and Anuradha Nadda

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6437789/

We can read the full study here.

(And here I am talking about marriages between cisgender and heterosexual individuals,marriages that the society will mostly accept leaving behind the other unacceptable marriages belonging to the category of different caste or religion , non-virgin bride etc etc.)

The proportions of victims across the genders may vary and yes this is something we must reflect upon, but what we cannot deny is its effects on the survivors and/or victims .

Yet Divorce is a big big stigma.

But even if a marriage doesn’t consist of any violence or torture I’m any form -sexually,verbally,physically,emotionally,mentally etc., can it still not end??

https://www.livelaw.in/amp/news-updates/existence-of-serious-dispute-between-husband-and-wife-grant-of-divorce-by-mutual-consent-under-hindu-marriage-act-chattisgarh-hc-172734?__twitter_impression=true

Source:LiveLaw

Well maybe it can . And maybe it should.

It’s a well accepted fact and a joke in bollywood movies, that marriages in India happen not between 2 individuals but between 2 families?

Of course, that’s why families have control over the fact whether the couple indulges in sex or not(by preparing wedding nights) and most importantly over the fact that the wife gets pregnant ..

So again if two “individuals” decide that they can’t go on together, they are not happy, they are not compatible or for a various other reasons which may sound silly to our silly society, why would the society give them what I would call the basic humane right to divorce?

So much stigma on being a divorcee. And I would say worse if you are a woman divorcee.

Tumse shaadi kaun karega? Tumhare bacche kaun sambhalega? And oh God,

The one that triumphs it all,

Humari izzat ka kya hoga,

Izzat. Quite a complex word. Like I should compare about my izzat in the eyes of those for whom personally I have no izzat.

How weird.

How many of you have seen Dil Dhadakne Do? Oh God, Relatable to the power infinity.

Humare khandaan mein aaj tak kisi ka divorce naa hee hua hai aur naa hee aage huega?

What’s this stuff with khandaans dude? Why do we still love in an Era where we consider ourselves the Mauryas or the Mughals with all that so called khandaan ki izzat?

Like what has happened in the end? Has our reputed Khandaan saved us against Covid-19? Like is Covid-19 not affecting husbands and wives with children and khandaans?

And another concept of what we call Hum Do, Humare Do.

Crap. Utter crap.

Marriage is not equal to child.

Child is not equal to marriage.

And that’s it.

But again coming back to divorce, the concept about whether a child will suffer.

Of course a child will suffer anyday if the relationship between the parents is not good. But it will anyday be worse if two hopeless parents stay under the same roof shouting at the top off their voices and taking their anger out on their vansh.

It’s fine. Individuals can rock as parents while failing as spouses.

Women can divorce without having any available tag on them. Men can divorce without needing to marry again.

And of course. They can continue with having relationships in their life. They are individuals. They make mistakes. Period.

Yahi dekhne reh gaya tha. Baccha oops sorry vansh paida karle. (Please stop these lame statements yaar)

A child is not meant to hold that thread(what we consider sacred) of marriage . Let the poor child breathe. Let the parents live.

And let them break free if they want. Period.

Because you know what,

Some marriages may be meant to end,

Some may be meant to last forever,

What is not meant to last is

Unhappy individuals, unhappy marriages and pathetic regressive standards to live by.

#Peace

The Pressure

The time comes when everything just needs a stop and everybody just needs a break. And that should and must apply to students including those giving the board examinations.

The facility infact the privilege of online classes has not been accessible to everyone showcasing the lack of infrastructure, technology, internet and electricity facilities.

So this effectively means that a student’s right to education has definitely been hampered. And that is a concern we must address at all levels.

Because while I can download wordpress in my phone and type my blogs, a student sitting somewhere not even know what is happening in school.

But today I want to again address the question regarding the mental health of the student community. The Pandemic has not been easy, has not been light for anyone . And the effects of the Pandemic are different for everyone which can definitely depend on your financial and social background.

But again today I would like to talk about the health concerns of students. India is not a country which takes it light on children appearing for examinations . I would not comment on the New Education policy till its effective implementation.

But till now, education has not placed emphasis on knowledge. It has placed a lot of importance on marks and basically competitive examinations and jobs. Those again taking special coaching, Kudos for dealing with it all.

While people are talking with continuing virtual learning systems after the Pandemic, I disagree. Till the Pandemic, I can’t say anything . We have no choice. But after we get the choice(hopefully soon), I can’t seem to agree with this whole concept of virtual learning. Yes we can definitely upgrade the virtual mode for those indulging in distant education or any other programmes and need such a mode of learning.

But this shouldn’t replace the real classroom as a learning environment for everyone. Being in the moment and absorbing everything there is important. Chit chatting with friends, sharing your lunch and even giving that hand raise is important. It is. I have had it on raising hands on zoom and teams.

The pressure on students is something disregarded in our country. With the 90 plus and 30 minus demarcation, it has never been easy . Like I remember having half a mark cut in a 80 mark test and being kind of snubbed my my teacher . And I was hurt and most importantly confused. Like why? It’s half a mark. Okay we can all strive to do our best and try to get good marks if we can. But again why do we need to be like the Virus? Can’t we be like the Rancho?

It’s been 1 year since class 10. My pre board results came which were touchwood fine. And the next day I am studying for my boards just thinking why am I doing this? For me obviously having access to laptops and stuff, The syllabus was over way back and I have been giving tests on tests. So now when I pick up a book, I am like mentally exhausted. I don’t wanna study. And it’s not some cribbing or oh you are exaggerating.

It’s real. This exhaustion. Some people call us lucky for 30 percent syllabus reduction. Even if we keep the ones who didn’t get suitable access to education aside, like the children for whom syllabus reduction was most important, it was necessary for even a student like me.

It’s not easy having no face to face interaction with teachers. And having the pressure of boards riled up with an ongoing Pandemic and just so much student pressure.

It was necessary. Period. It’s actually not a privilege. Difficult times call for necessary arrangements. Are these arrangements privileges? No. A big fat no. They are just important provisions we need to deal with the obstacles.

We have a Pandemic and we have to appear in boards next month. More than 1 lakh cases . And we have to appear for examinations.

Isn’t it normal to feel pressurized, stressed and exhausted? I believe that a lot of this pressure and tiredness to deal with it all would exist even in no Pandemic situations.

For everyone. From a nursery to class 12th student. From those giving competitive examinations to those doing PHDs. Everyone. It might differ as per the level but it is there.

Imagine a child who is learning ABCD is doing it through an IPAD. Yah parents are there. But again atleast what you learn in a school is being told on a computer. 1+1=2- learn on a phone.

Today the student community is trending #CancelBoardExaminations. Even if some students might not do it only for the fear of the Pandemic, I am sorry I can’t say it wrong.

Mental health is something important. Cant say it in simpler words. Can’t denote its importance more.

Is it always so important to judge students by the no. of hours they study? Can you understand the number of hours they sit with their heads held in their hands and just cry? Might not hold true for everyone. But it’s something I am definitely doing.

I seriously hope what is being passed to us today as phases, weaknesses and scoldings stops. I wish we as students grow up and fight this as adults. And keep on fighting today.

While CMs are commenting on ripped jeans, let’s just stop commenting for once. And let’s just decide to grow . As individuals and as humans.

Let’s stop defining struggles by our standards.

Let’s stop pressuring.

Let’s stop setting bench marks.

And at the end,

Let’s take a break.

Cause sometimes all you need is one.

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